Tend — Raising Him / Raising Her

How you raise him
is a marriage conversation.

A workbook for couples raising kids who want to parent from the same page — without the fight that usually happens when they don't.

Raising Him →Raising Her →

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The Core Insight

Parenting pulls couples apart.
Nobody talks about it.

Most parenting books tell you how to raise your kid. Almost none of them tell you how to stay united while doing it. The ones that address this treat it like a footnote. It's not a footnote.

The parenting disagreement is often the marriage disagreement. The discipline gap, the default parent dynamic, the different pictures of who the kid should become — these are marriage conversations that keep getting had as parenting arguments.

Two books. Both written for couples, not just parents.

What the Workbooks Cover

Five conversations every parenting couple
needs to have.

01

The discipline gap

One of you is firm, one is soft. You're not disagreeing about behavior — you're disagreeing about what kids need.

02

The default parent

One parent carries more. Both of you know it. The resentment is quiet but it's there.

03

What you're raising them toward

You have different pictures of who they should become. You've never said them out loud to each other.

04

The faith question

How much do you pass on? What do you insist on? What do you leave open? These answers need to come from both of you.

05

The marriage in the middle of it

Parenting can crowd out the marriage. How are you protecting what brought you here in the first place?

Two Workbooks

Raising Him

For couples raising boys. Covers: discipline, masculinity, emotional health, faith, and how to parent a son when you two have different ideas about what he needs.

Coming 2027 · $15 print / $27 digital

Raising Her

For couples raising girls. Covers: confidence, voice, safety, body image, faith, and how to raise a daughter without a script — together.

Coming 2027 · $15 print / $27 digital

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