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Writing on marriage.
June 15, 2026 · 6 min read
We still take the walk
Heather and I take a walk most evenings. Sometimes we argue on the walk. We still take the walk. That is the whole thing, really.
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June 15, 2026 · 5 min read
The Tuesday version
Not the unity candle at the wedding. The candle you light on a Tuesday in February when the kids are finally in bed and neither of you feels like it. That candle is the vow.
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June 15, 2026 · 6 min read
I think we're doing the thing
Every couple develops a cycle. Yours already has one. The cycle you cannot name will run your marriage. The one you can name, you can interrupt.
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June 15, 2026 · 5 min read
One cheer for the machine
Brad East gave the wedding industrial complex one or two cheers. The part it can't give you — a Candy, an Evelyn, a community that decides you matter — has to be assembled before the vows.
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June 15, 2026 · 4 min read
The church ladies
Candy Sefcik held the building. Evelyn Thompson held the table. What they were doing wasn't decoration — and it tells you something about what a marriage actually needs.
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June 14, 2026 · 4 min read
The question nobody asks before the wedding
Most premarital prep is one session with the pastor and a checklist. Here's what gets skipped — and why it matters.
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June 14, 2026 · 5 min read
What money fights are really about
The argument isn't about the Amazon purchase. It never is. What couples are actually fighting about when they fight about money.
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